Share Something Series #3 : Meet Kody Schneider

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MEET KODY SCHNEIDER

Head Resident Assistant | Office of Residential Living | Drexel University

FOR WHAT IN YOUR LIFE DO YOU FEEL MOST GRATEFUL?

One thing that I am grateful for in the life I live is my family. Family to me is not just defined as my blood related family, but also defined as the people I hold close to my heart. Throughout my life I have had the privilege to develop many meaningful relationships with the people I have met. Without the family I have developed over the years, I would not be the person that I am today, and for that I am forever grateful for them.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

I have to go out into left field with this one, and say that I would love to wake up tomorrow morning with the ability to teleport. Over the course of the past few years, I have worked at two different colleges (one in Virginia and the other in Pennsylvania) and my family still lives in California. Despite family being one of the things I am most grateful for, I have enjoyed traveling and exploring different places and meeting new people. Given the ability to teleport, I would be granted the freedom to see the people I care most about anytime that I would like.

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Big thanks to Kody for sharing honest and heartfelt words. Follow and connect with Kody on Instagram here!


This post is part of the Share Something series. The idea behind it is to learn more about the Student Affairs practitioners in our field beyond our titles and the work we do. Each participant has the option of responding to a set of questions that come from this article. We have no idea of where this series will go, but some awesome people have already submitted heartfelt and fantastic content. Each week we’ll post one to two articles. If you’re interested in being a part of the series, go here today.

Share Something Series #2 : Meet Juhi Bhatt

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MEET JUHI BHATT.

Assistant Director of Student Affairs Compliance & Title IX Investigator | Rutgers University | New Brunswick, New Jersey

 

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

I am most grateful for my family. I am lucky enough to say that my mother and my sister are my best friends. They have supported me through everything and truly do know everything about me. They have laughed with me, cried with me, and struggled with me as I have come into my own. My mother specifically shows me every day what selfless love looks like by leading by example. I am truly blessed.

Is there something you’ve dreamed of for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

For years I have been talking about visiting Europe. I have wanted to go to Paris for ages. I want to see the Eiffel tower. I want to eat the food! But finances, time, work, and my educational pursuits have held me back. I keep thinking there is still time but each year I lose more time. Now, with current attacks and such it makes it harder to plan a trip such as this but my desire to go has not changed. I have given myself a new deadline. My gift to myself once I complete my doctorate will be a trip to Europe.

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Big thanks to Juhi for sharing honest and heartfelt words. Connect with Juhi on Twitter @jbhatt12 and make a new friend!


This post is part of the Share Something series. The idea behind it is to learn more about the Student Affairs practitioners in our field beyond our titles and the work we do. Each participant has the option of responding to a set of questions that come from this article. We have no idea of where this series will go, but some awesome people have already submitted heartfelt and fantastic content. Each week we’ll post one to two articles. If you’re interested in being a part of the series, go here today.

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Share Something Series #1 : Meet Christine Adam

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Meet Christine Adam. 

Dean of Students | Thompson River University Kamloops, British Columbia

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

I am most grateful for a log cabin on a lake about three hours from where I now live. It’s a place we (me, my siblings, my parents and all our various children and partners) built six years ago to honour our grandparents. It’s a place where we all land on weekends and for extended vacations. It is full of physical things that are meaningful to us, but most of all, it’s full of all the people we love most in the world.

 

When did you last cry in front of another person?  

That’s hard to pin down, as I cry often! A recent time was on my birthday in May, on the first day walking the final 250 kms of the Camino de Santiago. I was surrounded by an amazing group of people, some of whom I barely knew, and some of whom I knew not at all. Someone in the group asked me about a tattoo I have, and I just fell apart, realizing that the star tattoo that I got many years ago represented the first step of a journey that included walking to Santiago de Compostela – Compostela being the Spanish “field of stars.”

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Big thanks to Christine for sharing honest and heartfelt words. Connect with Christine on Twitter @trudeanstudents and make a new friend!


This is the first post in the Share Something series. The idea behind it is to learn more about the Student Affairs practitioners in our field beyond our titles and the work we do. We have no idea of where this series will go, but some awesome people have already submitted heartfelt and fantastic content. Each week we’ll post one to two articles. If you’re interested in being a part of the series, go here today.

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Introducing the Selfish Self-Care Box

Update: This was a fun, challenging, and growth-filled adventure that has come to an end. Thank you to everyone who supported the efforts. If you’d like to chat more about self-care, email me at hello@thesapronextdoor.com These conversations make my life! 

Educators work hard to serve others, but we are terrible at taking care of ourselves. What’s worse is we don’t have the time to gather resources, and treat ourselves. It’s time to stop the excuses, take a deep breath, and open up a box of everything we need to relax and re-center. For a limited time only, you can order a Selfish Self-Care Box that’s made with you in mind.

EACH SELFISH SELF CARE BOX INCLUDES:

a super fancy coloring book + colored pencils

modelling clay

nutritious snacks

the unofficial guide to self-care

a few surprises

Total Cost: $20 + Shipping

BUY IT NOW

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

How soon will I get my order? 

All orders are shipped within 3-5 business days. You will receive a USPS tracking number in the shipping confirmation email that you receive, once the order has shipped. Please click the link in the email or go to www.usps.com and enter your tracking number to see where your order currently is in the shipping route. Contact Sinclair Ceasar at hello@thesapronextdoor.com if you don’t receive an email with tracking info within 72 hours of placing your order.

Can I order a Selfish Self-Care Box for someone else? 

Yes! How kind of you!

Is the Selfish Self-Care Box a subscription service? 

Good question. For now, it’s just a one time thing. But you can order as many boxes as you like. They make fantastic gifts!

BUY IT NOW

Need more assistance? Email Sinclair at hello@thesapronextdoor.com

Say Something: Just One Way to Be a Better Ally

You hear the news. It’s not as shocking as it should be. It’s the same trending topic you heard about a month ago. Too soon. Too soon for another Black body to be gunneddowninthestreet. Another life gone. Another family member slain. Another fundraiser to support the children left behind. Another trial. Another uproar.

It’s not just another anything. Every single life is significant. Every story deserves to be lived, yet pages are torn away. Chapters left unfinishe

What do you do? You try to process this and wrap your mind around it all. You want to help. You believe that your liberation is directly connected to that of those you stand beside. For some reason, words don’t come easy.

What do you say when you and your Black colleague are face to face?

What do you say to your Black friend?

How do you broach the topic with the Black employee you supervise?

I don’t want to say the wrong thing. I don’t want to break anything. 

Let me tell you something: It’s already broken.  It’s not helpful to ignore it. Your silence – though well intentioned – is not helping to soothe the pain. Say something. Say something from the bottom of your heart. Be there. Ask, “How can I be someone you can count on right now?”

And then listen.

 

 

All This Before 30

To do all of the of the following things I have to start somewhere. For example, I haven’t gone swing dancing in like 2 years. I’d need to actually take classes and get proficient before I could teach a beginner class. That’s the idea. Set a goal and then do what it takes to meet it.

This is all stuff that excites me. What’s on your list?

  1. Facilitate an online workshop intensive on productivity or self-care. (I wanna be like Hannah Brencher.)
  2. Lose 30 pounds and keep that ish off. (I have a nutritionist and a personal trainer right now.)
  3. Write a book about my life and how I’ve gotten to where I am. Publish it. Sell it. Maybe change a life. Maybe not.
  4. Prepare to enter a doctoral program. (Ummm…that’s scary).
  5. Run two more seasons of SA Search Motivation.
  6. Co-teach a beginner level Lindy Hop Swing dance class.
  7. Co-teach a beginner level improv class. (This is going to happen. I LOVE improv.)
  8. Run 10 different 5Ks (No Color Run 5Ks. Some kid threw yellow powder up my nose one year).
  9. Have 1:1 coffee meetups with at least 75 different college students and document 1/3 of them. (e.g. Keep track of who I met with; jot down their dreams and challenges while in undergrad, take a selfie with them, etc.)
  10. Go on 3 BIG vacations with Tynesha. (We’re going to Canada this year, so that’s one down).
  11. Send the moms in my life flowers on Valentine’s Day. (Because I stress the eff out when trying to get the perfect gift. So moms are the best option.)
  12. Co-plan a 1-day for young professionals needing a jump start in their careers.
  13. Go to 3 dance exchanges that include day long workshops.
  14. Launch a university peer-to-peer note writing project. (Similar to this one.)
  15. Speak at 10 schools (K-12 & college/university).
  16. Take 3 cooking classes –  especially one to make delicious foreign street food.
  17. Do a TEDX talk. An IGNITE talk. And talks at NASPA and ACPA. We goin’ big, ya heard!

*To be updated and modified periodically.

Somebody Needed To Hear This

They told me: Your words do a lot for me. Keep saying them. 

I found it hard to believe. I would say these inspirational things, but I would doubt myself too. Often. Everyday. I’m bright on the outside and feel ugly and unwanted on the inside.

But, I keep saying them because someone needs to hear them. Recently, I started believing my own words.I started believing that I am enough and that I am needed. Someone benefits from my presence (even if I never discover who or how), so it behooves me to show up. To push. I get to keep pushing.

I don’t have to keep pushing. I get to keep pushing.

There’s such freedom in realizing that I get to create a positive and healthy life for myself. I get to smile in a room full of frowns. I get to dream – really, dream. Dreams are important. Don’t let anyone take them from you. Don’t let them trick you out of dreaming.

I get to move at my own pace with this healing thing. Childhood was hard. People can be mean right? They can be so full of themselves that they fail to see how you’re hurting. I have stories and scars. We all have them. But, I’m still writing this thing. I’m still working this thing. And as I do, I’m going to keep saying what someone needs to hear.

I’m going to keep saying that you matter and that you are beautiful. You are. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of happiness.

Truth is: all this scares me. If I’m worthy of so much, then can’t I lose it all?

I can. And even if I did lose it all somehow, I’d still be worth it. That’s how it works. You showing up as you are and acting out of good intentions is what matters. That’s where you start. The rest you’ll figure out.

 

 

Do You Like Getting Happy Stuff In The Mail?

This is so exciting! So far, over 60+ people from around the country (and London too…LONDON!!!!) have signed up to receive a free and inspirational note from me in the mail. You know: the post office, stamps – the real thing! Oh, and to be honest, I don’t even know like 80% of the folks on the list. So that’s super cool because strangers are just friends waiting to happen, right?

You know you want to be on this mailing list. Click here to sign up. I can’t wait to write you.

 

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